Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) unfolds in three key phases. First, in the Assessment and De-escalation phase, couples identify negative cycles of interaction that contribute to distress and work to create a more secure emotional bond.

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—Learn the verbs you rely on when things get tough. Answer this question by Sue Johnson.

“In your present relationship, what do you tend to do when you feel disconnected or unsafe?”

—Learn the emotional triggers…that look your partner gives, that tone of voice, the way the soundtrack to your love suddenly stopped playing.

—Learn how to find deeper levels and decode the surface emotions.

Next, the Restructuring Interactions phase encourages partners to express their needs and emotions openly, fostering vulnerability and deeper understanding, which helps to reshape their connection.

—What am I most afraid of?

—What do I need most from you?

Finally, during the Consolidation and Integration phase, couples solidify their new, healthy patterns of interaction, allowing them to maintain a strong connection and effectively navigate future conflicts with greater emotional resilience.

-Let’s create a “Resilient Relationship Story.” (Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight)

-Let’s create a “Future Love Story.” (Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight).